If you, like me, find the toms on the standard kit a little too lively and a little overmixed, my “live sound” approach rather than a “live drums in the room” approach may be your answer.
For each tom, I used a pair of notches to reduced (not eliminate) the resonances from both the top and bottom skins, leaving them musical, but damping their oversized rebound effect; adding a gate, I shortened the length of the notes and increased the decay rate. I tried to keep it from sounding unnaturally damped, and, for the most part, I’m pretty happy with the results.